Humans can say hurtful things sometimes. I’m human, I know. I’ve been on the giving side and the receiving side. We all have. Some people, like myself, can say they have received more than given. What they really mean to say is this, “Most of my memories are about hurtful things people have said and done to me for no reason at all!” I can say this also. But it doesn’t make it true. That is basically a perception of what can be recalled.
I happen to love words. On my Pinterest page, I have a section for wonderful words. I readily agree with Dr. Caroline Leaf’s research on how words affect a person brain, causing them to feel physical pain.
I can give you an example. When I was in grade school, I learned how pretty I was not. It was a boy who liked my sister giving me the bad news. He said to me, “If you did have those bucked teeth (the two front ones) you’d be pretty like your sister!” Next thing I knew, everyone was chanting, “Buck teeth, buck teeth!” I didn’t cry in front of them. I didn’t say anything. I walked away. When I got home, I inspected myself in the mirror. To my surprise, my teeth were bucked. I stopped smiling unless it was necessary. You know, for pictures and the sort. This went on for most of my life in one form or the other.
As an adult, I became very self-conscience. Even after I had work done, I still saw myself as some form of ugly. I hate to hear someone talk about another’s appearance in a derogatory manner. It literally makes me sweat and want to hide. I would try to defend the person in so many ways. It was like I was being talked about too!
I know everyone has some words stuck in the back of their minds which bring about unwanted feelings. Maybe you took care of yours a long time ago. Some of didn’t. They continue to live with us cause some degree of pain.
I know most of you heard this idiom: His/her words cut like a knife! Well, now you know. Words build our world and the things in it. Words build our children and who they become tomorrow. Words build our relationships and determine if they will last.
Until next time,
Words will be with us for a lifetime. We must determine with great care and concern how we will use them. Words even linger on about a person after death. So, we must remember to speak carefully, because words can never be taken back.